Wedded Bliss

I'm back. Bettylou fixed my blog problem and now in business. Lots have happened in the last month and I will recap and blog about each event later.

1. Christmas came and went. With all the bad weather, the LLS was not able to get here till the 27th. It hardly felt like Christmas since we had steak on the 25th and turkey in the 28th. It doesn't feel like Christmas till all the chicks come home. Had a good time anyway.

2. Found out the little one is having a baby. Not planned, not smart BUT all babies are loved.

3. I turned 51. Not as tragic as last year. The LLS took her scrapbook that I made her to work and all the people there think I look young and pretty. That's a great morale booster.

4. Mr. Wonderful and I celebrated our 30th anniversary. Now that's what the topic is today.



MR. WONDERFUL

I've known MW since 1972. He sat behind me in Miss Ervin's english class. I didn't know it then but he has since told me that even though I never gave him the time of day...He knew I was the one for him. He picked me all those years ago. He also said he liked looking down my shirt. I knew there was another reason he liked me. That too is a mystery since I was flat as a pancake. This proves the theory that love is blind. Of course, I was in love with another. I really did not date him or hang in the same circles with him. So I moved away and we exchanged addresses. He moved too and we wrote snail mail letters. That's all that was available back in the olden days. He wrote good letters.

I moved to California by myself in 1975. MW had enlisted in the navy, gone to school and was now stationed on a ship in of all places...San Diego. Now that's a coincidence because I was in S.D. too. He came to visit and the rest is shall we say is history.

Now here's the part that's good and you will see why he's one of a kind and I could never see myself without him. Besides being a great father and husband, he's just a nice guy. If I could say a few negative things about him they would be that he's a staunch republican and he blows his nose too much. But is that really negative? This is a man that always does the right thing. He returns grocery carts to the inside of the store. He would never think of leaving them in the parking lot. I never have to ask him to take out the trash or mow the lawn. He just does it all the time. He's always the first to shovel the neighbors snowed in driveway. He's always willing to help people move. Heck, he even laid the sod on Don's front lawn last spring. This is a man that even now I know it's hard to believe but he actually does most of the laudry too. Now I know what you are thinking. This can't be so, but it's true. The man does laundry and if you guys are a little squeemish, you might want to gloss over the next sentence. HE ALSO IRONS.
Now I just don't love him because of his laundry skills. I love him because he loves me and he tell me all the time. Maybe not in words but I will give examples.

He has saved every card I have ever given him. Yes there are boxes. There are letters too.

He will do anything for me and his girls. I mean anything. He makes grocery runs on Christmas even though I have promised him that I have everything for the meal. He just smiles and calls me from the store asking if there is anything I might need. (there always is) and he will go back if I asked him nicely. He will bail his kids out financially. Be careful on this one as the girls know that this one does not come without a lecture and of course a repayment plan. There's no such thing as a free lunch when it comes to money.

He drives 65 miles to Brush (small town in Colorado) on Memorial Day to put flowers on the grave of his grandparents.

He listens to what I have to say.

I hear him talking about me in positive ways to friends and family. He doesn't know I'm listening and it always makes me feel good.

I still get butterflies in the car coming home because I can't wait to see him. He looks at me from across a room and gives me the nod.

My physical shape has changed in the 30 years we've been married and not once has he said anything negative about the way I look.

OK OK he's not perfect. He sometimes does not like my cooking and is not overflowing with the culinary compliments but I can look past that.

There are lots of other things too. Almost too many to mention. One last thing, remember when you first get to know someone and you can't keep you hands off of them. The sex is great and you never want that feeling to end?? Remember that??? Well let me tell you the the sex is still great. The frequency of the grabbing has decreased but there is alot of grabbage going on. He has kept it alive all these years and still tells me he thinks about me (but he really means is sex) all the time. I can read between the grabbing.

There's always a lesson to be learned. Here it is. 30 years ago, I asked myself this question. Would I be better off with or without this man? I was afraid, and I still said yes to a wonderful life. Love can be just like movie love. But it will not magically happen. You have to make it happen. You have to keep it sexually charged and don't forget to go on dates, hold hands and kiss each other every night. Don't give up girls, your Mr/Ms. Wonderful is out there for you. Keep your eyes and heart open. P. S. I have found that the nerds of the world make the best companions.