MY LLD

Please forgive the time between blogs. Mr. Wonderful is always around and I do not feel my writing creative juices flowing when he breathes in my space. And I'll say it again, I will only blog when he's not home. This way I will not feel like I need to sensor my blog.

When we left off so long ago, I said that I would tell you about how to raise a happy and healthy lesbian and non lesbian (hetero). First you need to know that it's should be no surprise to any parent that there is a "les b non" growing in your house. All the signs come early. If you have a child that tells you that he or she is 21 and gay and you are surprised...well than you are STUPID!!!! He or she has been gay HER whole life. Did you not see the signs? They come early. Here are a few.

1) Unusually early interest in sex. This includes magazines, movies and boys. Yes, I said boys because my only experience has been raising a lesbian. They fight the feeling from an early age. But you find pictures of girls hidden away. Porn in her drawers, etc. We are talking under the age of 10. The porn was stolen from Mr. Wonderful.

2) Very comfortable around men and boys because they are no threat.

3) Not too many girls you claim as friends because they are a threat. Heaven forbid that they find out that you are gay. Even though, you only want their friendship, things could be taken the wrong way. It's better to not get close to anyone.

4) As they get older their friends are blatantly gay teenagers. They are fun to be around. Afterall, who doesn't like to have fun with your best friend that's a boy that shares all your same interests. In my case, my LLD (luscious lesbian daughter) liked music, singing and theater. All her gay boyfriends liked the same things. They also liked going to the movies, waiting in line for 3 hours to get donuts and staying up all night and crying on each others shoulders because they need to tell their parents they are gay but can't.

5) When the time is right, your child will tell you he or she is gay and you' re to say. " I know, I've always known and nothing between us has changed." The hardest part for them is still to come. Because now the relatives have to be informed and they might not be so accepting. In my case, my LLD has done all of the above. It was hard and I'm sure things don't seem the same with some of the family and friends, but rest assured nothing has changed between my LLD and ME..

SHE IS STILL THE MOST CONFIDENT PERSON I KNOW. SHE CAN TALK TO ANYONE ABOUT ANYTHING. SHE IS THAT SMART. SHE IS MORE LIKE ME THAN SHE'LL EVER WANT TO ADMIT. SHE IS BEAUTIFUL AND SHE GROWS IN HER ABILITY TO AMAZE ME EVERYDAY THAT SHE IS NOT WITH ME. BUT THEN AGAIN SHE IS WITH ME EVERYDAY, AS I THINK ABOUT HER EVERYDAY. SHE MAKES DECISIONS AND IS NOT AFRAID TO CHANGE THEM. SHE MADE THE DECISION TO COME HOME AND GO TO SCHOOL. THIS DECISION I THOUGHT WAS NOT THE BEST. AFTER A FEW DAYS BECAUSE MY LLD CAN THINK AND MAKE WISER DECISIONS, SHE DECIDED TO STAY PUT AND KEEP THE JOB SHE LOVES AND CONTINUE HER LIFE IN SUNSHINE. THIS WAS TRULY THE BETTER WAY TO GO.

One last note, the private life of your heteros and non heteros is exactly that. It is their private life, don't be snoopy because you would never ask your straight child about the intimates details of their private life, therefore the same courtesy should be given to your gay children. If they want to tell you, they will.

About raising straight children, it's exactly the same and raising a lesbian. I love all my children the same. I don't have to blog anymore about raising a straight child. I would offer no other advise and I wouldn't change a thing.

THIS ONE'S FOR YOU PEANUT.